Beautifully Blended: Katy's Kulhaneks Embrace Life as a Blended Family

Falling in love and re-marrying with children is both exciting and challenging for everyone involved. One Katy couple talks about how they're creating an atmosphere of love and harmony as a blended family.

KATY MAGAZINE |April 2018 By Tassie Hewitt & Ashley Lancaster Opening photo by Magnetic Photography, Wedding photos by Buller Photography

When Clifton Kulhanek proposed to his wife, Lindsay (Zae), five years ago, she embraced him and his three children from a previous marriage, and discovered that although blended families may have more dynamics to deal with, there’s also a beautiful opportunity for profound love.

Yours, Mine, and Ours

Zae and Clifton Kulhanek, who were friends long before they considered dating, earned the approval of Clifton’s kids, Cliffy, now age 21, Justin, age 17, and Kailey, age 14, before they even considered marriage.

“We weren’t even dating. The youngest was about eight at the time. She said they all voted that I’d make the best step-momma,” said Zae, who is a child of a divorced family, herself. “If they hadn’t had that conversation with me, I don’t know that we would have been brave enough to take the step right then.”

The couple involved the children in the union from the start. The boys walked Zae down the aisle and served as Clifton's best men, and Kailey was her junior maid of honor “When we exchanged rings, the kids gave me a mom necklace with all of our birthstones,” says Zae. “The vows talked about not just honoring each other, but our relationship with the kids.”

“They’ve known her eight years of their lives,” says Clifton, who jokes that Zae married him for his kids. “She’s always been around. No one will ever replace their mom, but they live with us and she is the mom when they’re here. The biggest thing the kids have to deal with is sometimes feeling guilty that they care so much about her.”

Trials and Transitions

According to Dan Johnson, licensed professional counselor for REID Counseling Group in Katy, loyalty confusion is common for children whose parents remarry. They also tend to suffer from a lack of identity, and a feeling of loss.